EXECUTE OR PARDON ?

08 Αυγ EXECUTE OR PARDON ?

Unfortunately most of us once went through an unpleasant episode of betrayal. The worst thing is that betrayer was probably a beloved, very close person, part of your heart and very often for a huge interval of your life. Betrayal is like suddenly being hit by tank which you never saw moving towards you.

The question is if we should  forgive the betrayal. Yes, definitely yes! Forgiveness has a lot of benefits for us.  But (and there is a big BUT) it needs the right timing.

The betrayed person needs to heal, move on, grow up. In the begging of this hard way we feel sad, destroyed, angry, furious, ashamed – and these feelings are absolutely physiological. Acceptance of this condition is very important and it is the first step to healing.

The big mistake on this stage is to force yourself to forgive the insulter and “clean your soul”. No, not you. Who should think about the “cleansing of soul” is the betrayer! Forgiving while you are in pain looks like trying to fight a fire by adding more fuel.

When you find yourself, calm down, detach from the offender, then it is the right time to make a big gift to yourself – become free from the prison of old grudges. We have to stop keeping offense and permanently poison our self with an old story. Here we need forgiveness.  

Remember forgiveness doesn’t not cancel the ugliness and disgustingness of betrayer action. You just sell his debt to the Debt Collecting Agency named “Karma”. He is not owing you any more, you are free. No he is owing to a very strict and powerful destiny! Xe xe xe….